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No judgement

As I mentioned before, I am seeing a postpartum therapist to help me with my PPD (postpartum depression) and I just wanted to talk about this for a moment.

I love therapy, I am a strong believer in it and I have found myself craving it at certain stages of my life.  The first time I went I was nervous because of the stigma society has regarding "therapy." Most people think you must be really crazy or losing your marbles if you need therapy when in actuality it is the opposite!  You have to be pretty sane and in tune with yourself to know that you need some help in dealing with something.  If your heart was failing you would see a cardiologist, if you had a problem with your skin you would run to the nearest dermatologist, when your roots need done you pick up the phone and make an appointment with your stylist, and if you are feeling tense and tight you head to the nearest spa for that massage . . . so why do people judge when others seek out the mental help they need when they are not functioning at their best?  It is no different than getting help for any other issue/problem you may have.  People should not be ashamed or embarrassed for needing help; they should be loved and nutured.



I wanted to share a tool that my therapist gave me that I am really trying to make a daily practice.  It's called the "Loving Kindness Meditation."  I am trying to do this for a few minutes after the girlies have gone to bed and before I drift off to sleep; if nothing else it is really helping me relax right before bedtime and gets my mind to slow down so that I can fall asleep a little easier.  And I have to admit I am too hard on myself and totally "judge" how I am doing . . . I get mad at myself for not doing it right and being "perfect" at it BUT that is exactly why this practice is important and crucial for me!

Step One - Practicing Mindfulness
It is important to start a daily practice.  Do what you can with a minimum of 5 minutes a day and work your way up to 20 minutes a day.  Sit in a chair with your feet firmly planted on the ground or sit on a pillow with your legs crossed.  Be sure to sit with your back straight.  You can practice with your eyes open or closed.  Place your hands on your thighs or with your fingers gently touching.

Step Two - Basic Breath Meditation
Begin by focusing on your breath and notice your breath as you breath in and as you breath out.  As your mind wanders (and it will) gently bring your awareness back to your breath. Do your best to remain curious, open and accepting of whatever happens during your mediation.  There is no need to judge your practice.  You may feel like you aren’t doing it right and get frustrated.  Notice your judgment and then bring yourself back to focusing on your breath. This is the foundation of mindfulness practice.

Step Three - "Loving Kindness" meditation.
While sitting, say this mantra during the meditation. 
May I be healthy.
May I be safe.
May I be happy.
Notice what comes up for you without judging.  Always bring your attention back to these three sentences.


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